Alpha males, the most in-demand men, aren’t easily attracted. It’s difficult to win their hearts. But, what’s even more difficult? Well, winning their hearts for a lifetime!
From finding them, turning their heads, and winning a date to making them want to stay, kneel down, and get married; this guide is certainly everything you’ll ever need to win an alpha’s affection!
Let’s get started by defining a true alpha (and not a pretender)!
Alpha males are dominant, born-leaders. They don’t ask to exhibit dominance or leadership, they just do. Power is a natural trait in them that they can’t suppress; they like to take the charge, everywhere (from the boardroom to bedroom). They love challenges but doesn’t like to be competitive in a love affair.
An alpha demands adoration and care, not confrontation and dare! He’s loving, smart, protective and definitely very dominating. He’s everything a woman would ever want; the reason why they are the most sought-after men.
On the other hand, a “pretender” alpha always poses to be affectionate and sharp; he’s controlling, and domineering. He will abuse his muse, raise his voice, talk at her, and belittle her to prove his power. Such men are hard to judge, and only time is an indicator. If spotted, these posers must be avoided to the greatest extent! They aren’t alphas; they are the pretenders who only talk and never act.
Now that we know who to look for (and who to run away from), let’s learn the rules of spotting a true alpha, in a crowd of wannabe alphas!
Finding a true alpha
You need an eye, rather a vision to spot the difference. A true alpha has some qualities that are specific to their species, and just cannot be imitated (no matter how hard the wannabes try). Let’s begin with a simple question.
Who, according to you, is an alpha, a commando, who’s 6’3”, 250 pounds, muscular and trained to kill in 15 bloodcurdling ways OR Shawn Mendes?
The answer might surprise most women – it’s Shawn Mendes!
That’s because human alpha males, unlike animals, aren’t only differentiated on the basis of their physical strength and ability to kill. They should be on top of the social hierarchy too. The commando is strong, but only physically. However, Shawn is rich, famous, followed, loved, has better access to resources, and enjoys more dating opportunities. That’s what makes him a true alpha!
The best way out is to look for these traits:
He doesn’t threaten, rather attracts.
A true alpha doesn’t threaten; he attracts. For example, a wannabe would strictly ask you to not go to a chancy party and a true alpha would explain why you shouldn’t be going! Women, today, don’t like to obey without questioning. They don’t mind their extra-care as it’s not controlling, which makes alphas well-liked partners.
Alphas know that attraction lasts longer than fear!
He’s a true leader.
An alpha always knows what he wants. And, he has a skill of working his way out. For example, if a pretender has a subordinate, who’s not working accordingly, he’s most likely to raise his voice and convey what he wants in an arrogant manner. However, a true alpha would first praise them for what they are good at, then, point out their mistakes and tell them how they can improve.
Similarly, in a relationship, a true alpha would use his humble ways rather than his fist or loud voice. And this is exactly what women want.
At the peak of success, alphas have all the reasons to be 100% confident. And, their body-language, posture, gestures, and mannerisms will tell. Confidence is sexy — isn’t it?
They are not scared of questions or challenges, and they always have a satisfying reply, unlike a pretender who’d come back with arrogance and assert on not being answerable to a ‘woman’.
A man with the above-mentioned traits is hard to find. Also, alpha males, just 10% in total, are hunted by most women in their realm and get a lot of attention. So, they know their worth, and add tax to it. They want the best in everything, even in the one who they date. And, this makes them an even harder nut to crack.
Here’s how you can be the ultimate nutcracker!
Getting an alpha’s attention
To make an alpha notice you, you’ll have to work hard. Very hard! Because it’s a lot more than hair-flips, an hourglass figure, and walking straight in 6 inches, it’ll require a transformation of character and personality.
In a woman rather a lady, they look for the best of hormones, genes, personality and character. Here are the three ultimate tips that’ll help you groom into the lady, alphas seek out.
‘Always look your best!’
Alpha males don’t like women with unnatural hair hue, styles and cuts. They have no interest in tattooed women. Beauty, to them, is everything natural. Also, they have an eye for great personality. The way you walk, talk and carry yourself also matters. Go to the gym, get fit, join grooming sessions, and become a lady with class, to attract (woo) an alpha!
The only way to allure an alpha male is to be elegantly feminine. He’s not looking for a woman to battle with, so being muscular won’t really help. We emphasize the need to be strong rather than well-built in order to attract an alpha. Eat healthy, live clean, and look natural. Your natural softness, elegance and femininity is what they seek, not the powergirl the radical feminist society has transformed women into.
‘Be Confident and Humble!’
You’ll have to let go of your ego, keeping your confidence and self-respect intact. Alpha males fall for pretty and confident women, who know the importance of their feminine charm. So, always feel confident enough to make good conversations with them, and add a touch of femininity and cultured upbringing to your talks. Also, humility, to them, is incredibly appealing. Be humble!
When you have their attention, it’s important that you keep calm and don’t run into risky situations that put you into the same league of desperate women, who are chasing them like crazy-heads. The journey from grabbing their attention to winning a date is not an easy one. You’ll have to take every step wisely!
Winning a date
Wait for them to throw hints.
You’ll have to be very patient with them. No matter what, wait for them to throw hints but be wise and quick enough to catch them in time. Also, taking the first step forward isn’t the best move towards an alpha. Don’t act like you’re in charge as it puts a question mark on their trait to lead. Alpha males like to make the first moves, all the time. If you let them lead, they’ll make sure you walk side to side and don’t lag behind. Isn’t that what you want?
Let them long a bit.
Keep an alpha male wanting and they’ll never have enough of you. Give in, but not immediately! Let him long a bit for your reply, consent and attention. They don’t value what comes easy so you’ll have to play your cards slowly. Keep in mind, too much of procrastinating will make them assume that you’re not interested, which we certainly don’t want. Go slowwwww!
Don’t be an easy-to-get.
If you start chasing them, they are sure to run away! ‘First’ text is also a bad idea because you end up spoiling the fun for them. Don’t pose like an easy-to-get because, like we said, they love challenges. They’re too much into the chase game and it’s actually a turn-off for them if the girl gives in easily. Wait for that phone to ring, because if they are truly interested, it sure will!
These three steps will take you closer to a date that you’d been dreaming of. If he’s truly interested, he’ll make sure he crosses every hurdle you throw at him. Trust us; you’ll be equally amazed during the chase game!
Want to go an extra mile and fix another date? Here’s a *hush-hush* tip
Cast a lasting impression.
There are tons of women in his realm, who are hitting hard on him and are desperate to get laid. You’re different, lady! That’s what will improve your chances over them. Instead of working on seducing him, focus on casting an impression. Think out of the league; instead of leaving back social handles, leave a piece of jewelry, or a watch behind – anything that he’d have to return.
Viola! You just fixed yourself another date.
Now that the dating game is getting stronger, you’ll have to work on the details that alpha males have an eye for. They notice women closely and observe every inch of their personalities before saying those three magical words.
Making them fall in love
Here are a few tips to keep in mind in order to change your dating game into a lasting love affair.
Do not challenge their belief in gender roles.
They are competitive but don’t like competition coming from their lady love. They understand the gender roles very well and love women who submit to follow them. For instance, for some of them you might have to do domestic chores that are made typically for a woman, like washing, cooking, doing dishes etc., and leave the car repairs, gardening etc. to them.
Pay attention to what he says.
They hate being neglected or half-heard. They fall for alert women who pay attention closely. When he talks, don’t just hear, but listen. Show your engagement and don’t pretend if you don’t know something. Rather, ask. They’ll be happy to satiate your curiosity. Alpha males love attention, especially when they are talking.
When he buys you flowers, smile and thank him. When he talks about his achievements, comfort him by acting impressed. Tell him that you’re grateful to have him. Alphas don’t like ungrateful women who are too high-headed to appreciate little efforts. Also, your gratitude will keep them into putting more efforts.
Encourage him with praises.
For alpha males, the biggest form of appreciation is encouragement. If you encourage him with all honesty, he’s more likely to take you seriously. They get flooded with compliments, so encouragement will help you stand out, and create a special place in their hearts. Instead of praising the size of his apartment or car, consider talking about its décor and how well-maintained they keep their cars.
Show that you enjoy their company.
Alpha males rarely get the time to hang out with someone, and if they choose you, make sure you comfort them by enjoying their company to the fullest. It won’t take a lot because they are naturally interesting. So when they tell a joke, laugh out loud (not weirdly, of course!).
Take Pride in Being Unique
Nowadays, cultured, grounded and ladylike women are hard to find! There are only few left, not swept away by the wave of radical feminism. Alpha males look out for such women, who are as rare as alphas themselves. So, be unique and take pride in your ideology of not settling down with just any man, but the best. When they realize, you’d been waiting for them and that you value them, they’re likely to take the romantic affair a step further.
These tips will help you get the love of the alpha male you’re eyeing. But, he still might not be convinced about putting a ring on it. Let’s take you there; but first, read this –
When you have their eyes on you (only you), you’re likely to ruin it. Because, duh, over-thinking is a woman’s best friend!
We have your back; here’s how you can avoid ruining it, and take it straight to marriage!
Mistakes to avoid when they start falling for you
Here are three mistakes you’re most likely to make in a rosy relationship with your alpha. Take notes!
The problem here is that women start thinking that it’s just too good to be true. That’s where they begin to ruin it. By over-analyzing everything, and doubting every single word of his, they start acting like an insecure partner, who’s totally opposite of who alphas had met on their first date.
Left confused, they slowly start to believe that the woman had been pretending all this while and they stop putting in efforts, and ultimately quit. Another reason is that they don’t like reassuring, again and again, after being falsely accused. They will simply get bored and move on because they have options (plenty of them)!
So, keep your “Maybe he’s cheating”, out of the window!
You begin raising an eyebrow to everything
The sad part is that insecurity is going to crawl in, no matter what. But, the sadder part is that if you invite it yourself, it’s surely going to ruin it all! This is the mistake most women commit; they start raising an eyebrow to everything! Be it about communicating how they feel or holding off on sex; they don’t realize that dating an alpha means they are not in control!
Not calling or texting him back, postponing plans to meet and setting the bar for sex too high can also put off an alpha. As a woman, you can’t just wake up out of nowhere and claim your radical feminist rights, especially around an alpha. Doing so, you’re most likely to lose them!
Remember, no relationship comes with a guarantee. It might or might not work out; but, if you bend on self-sabotaging it, there’s no chance your relationship will sustain the test of ego clashes!
That’s a myth!
Now that we have busted the bubble, there are about a dozen women who already have their eyes on your man, and are waiting eagerly for you (rather him) to call it quits. He has a million women drooling over him, and moving on and beyond has never been a problem for alphas.
So, now that you know the don’ts of dating an alpha, make sure you avoid the above-mentioned mistakes at all cost. If you find yourself falling off the track, just get back here and read them once again.
By leaving your insecurities behind, you actually take a step closer to getting married to the man of your dreams.
Something you need to know…
Alpha males don’t like a lot of emotional drama or psychological breakdowns because they feel they don’t have enough time to deal with all that. They want convenient women, who are not too clingy or needy physically because they enjoy living in their private space, and want to enjoy unquestioned freedom.
They can be really possessive, protective and aggressive at times, so be mindful of that and set your own boundaries!
We hope this guide helps you marry the alpha man you’d been praying for.