Ego means a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance, and being egoless simply means the opposite. When you are egoless, you become more selfless and you put others first rather than yourself.
- 1. Trait of a True Leader
- 2. Become Aspiration to Others
- 3. Build Better Relationships
- 4. Blocking Yourself from Negativity
- 5. Expression of Gratitude
- 6. Creates Engagement with Others
- 7. Positive Publicity
- 8. Inspire Positive Thinking
- 9. Deeper Connection with Yourself
- 10. Becoming Less Attached
- 11. Expand Beyond Limitation
- 12. Leaving a Positive Impact on the World
This is the basic fundamental that most people understand about egoless. However, being egoless has a deeper meaning and this is where most people have got it wrong. Ego is when you put yourself in the first-person thinking and everyone else is third-person. This is where you just them from their behaviors but refused to be judged because you always act for your ‘reasons’. In other words, you put yourself in your own shoes and think from your side rather than from other people’s point of view. Your awareness is focused on your own emotional comfort and how you perceive other people.
On the contrary, egoless is where you put yourself as from the third-person thinking and everyone else is first-person. You look at things from their perspectives while being aware of how people perceive you. Instead of looking at other people’s personalities, you look at their intentions, or the meaning they are trying to bring to you. In this egolessness state, you will not feel insulted or offended because you have ‘throw yourself away’ and your awareness is focused on other people’s perspective and your perceived meanings. Simply put, when you are experiencing egolessness, you are stepping out from the situation and looking at it from a higher perspective.
In the field of meditation, egoless means become aware of the experience of not identifying with thoughts or being attached to any thought. You simply exist as a witness. This is not a doing or a concentration, rather, it is a state where you stop clutching to your thoughts. People who practice meditation desire to reach the state of egolessness because it is said that this state allows the practitioners to reach the peace of mind and full relaxation.
Now, do not get it wrong by thinking that ego or the sense self-esteem is not important. In fact, most success gurus will tell you that you need to improve your self-importance in order to achieve higher grounds. While this can be true, it is not the whole picture. Sometimes you will need the self-esteem to move on and most of the time, you need to live the egoless life in order to produce better results and achieve outstanding success in life. And below are 12 benefits of living an egoless life that you never knew about.
1. Trait of a True Leader
When it comes to achieving great success in life and becoming a true leader, you need to be egoless. This is common sense as nobody wants to work for someone who only thinks about themselves and their motives. Why do you think those great leaders like Nelson Mandela, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King and other business leaders such as Richard Branson and Warren Buffett able to attract fans? People love these authority figures because they are selfless. They think and act from other people’s point of view rather than acting from their own motives.
If someone is there to help you willingly without asking for anything in return, they will become your hero. When you are a child, you aspire to be like your father. And one of the reasons is that you recognized the incredible sacrifice your father made for you and he became your hero. Thus, you wanted to be like him. When you grow up and become an adult, you wanted to be like the celebrity in your field. If you are in the e-commerce business, perhaps you will want to be like Amazon’s CEO Jeff Bezos. If you are in the filming industry, maybe you will want to be like Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson or Tom Cruise.
Whoever you aspire to be, these great leaders are selfless and they act for other people. They put the priority on their clients, customers, readers, and audience, and this is why they are able to soar and become the leader that people look forward to.
It is the trait of a true leader to be egoless. When you are not emotionally attached to your own pride and motivate, you will act for the people. And when you act for the people, you will become the leader that others aspired to be.
2. Become Aspiration to Others
Imagine if you are looking for a job right now and you have two companies to choose from, one is a nobody company that pays you $3,000 a month, and the other is the well-known Google, but Google pays you a lower salary at $2,800 a month. Which company would you like to apply and work for?
The majority will opt for Google even though it has a lower pay, and why is that? The answer is that everyone aspires to be with great leaders and they want to part of a remarkable vision. Bill Gates started with an amazing plan to build Microsoft, and he has a big vision for the company. This is why a lot of people wanted to work for him and join his team.
When you have a big vision and are selfless, people will come to you and give you the aid you need. People will aspire to be you. Unfortunately, in today’s world, a lot of startups focus on their own profit and aiming for quick-rich rather than focusing on becoming a true leader that cares about their market, their team, and their customer.
Therefore, if you want to be an amazing leader in your industry and achieve outstanding success in life, be more egoless and put your priority in making other people’s dreams reality. When you help others to achieve their dreams, they will help you achieve yours.
3. Build Better Relationships
Think about it, when you are always about yourself, will people want to be with you? The answer is an obvious no. People love to be around with others who value their relationships. When you are all about yourself, people will sense it and they will feel that you are just someone who cares about yourself.
Regardless of whether it is in a business relationship or in your love relationship, you need to learn to be egoless. Put less attention on yourself and focus more on the other party. When you put in the effort and sacrifice for the people you love, you will build better and more intimate relationship with them.
One of the main factors a love relationship did not work out is because people are too self-eccentric. They focus on themselves more than they focus on their partners. For instance, when you cook, wash the laundry, clean up the house, or DIY a gift for your lover, he or she will feel your effort and the priority you put on them. As a result, the relationship will work out better and your partner will appreciate you more.
In business, there is a famous principle that explains this well, “What’s in it for me?” When it comes to making a successful deal, you have to put yourself customers, your clients, and other people first. You have to think about their benefits and what is there for them to gain before you think about yourself. This is why being egoless is important in building a better relationship.
4. Blocking Yourself from Negativity
When you are egoless and are aware of your thoughts, you will be able to shun yourself from negative thinking that will get a piece of your life. Usually, people went into an argument or when they focus on the problem rather than the solution, this is because they are all about themselves. They concentrate and think from their point of view rather than stepping out from the picture and think from a third party viewpoint.
Study after study on meditation has discovered that meditation to achieve the state of egoless and peace has the ability to remove stress and negative energy. In the famous Oprah Winfrey Show, Oprah said that she meditates regularly to feel better and become more positive.
When you free yourself from attaching to any of your thought, you are also freeing yourself from the negativity.
5. Expression of Gratitude
Becoming egoless is also an expression of gratitude. A study compiled by Harris Interactive and Ernst & Young has discovered that as high as 61% of entrepreneurs and small businesses are more likely to give back to charitable organizations. The study also revealed that 73% of the respondents encourage employees to volunteer, while 53% offers programs specifically designed to encourage donating.
What is more important to discover from the study is that as much as 62% of the respondents said that they believed that giving back makes their companies stronger in the long run.
In the business world, when you give back to charity, you are able to connect better with the community, and the people in the community can be your customers. Hence, you built a stronger relationship with your customers through giving back. The same story applies to any individual who gives back to the world. When someone gives back and express their gratitude, they are able to connect better with themselves.
The key takeaway here is that people who are more egoless tend to be more appreciative and are more grateful for what they have in life. Thus, when you are egoless, you will be more grateful because you put others first and not yourself.
6. Creates Engagement with Others
You can engage better with others when you are egoless. Someone who has a high egoism is always thinking and acting from their personal point of view. They look at the world and act on their own thoughts rather than thinking and acting from a higher perspective.
This is why egoistic people tend to be less able to connect and engage better with people. They are all about themselves and they will never put themselves in other people’s shoes. On the other hand, people who are more egoless will think and act differently. They are more willing to help and understand others because they do not think or act from their own thoughts.
This is why if you want to build a better relationship or create a better engagement with others, be egoless. If you are running your own business and when you align your business with a good cause, you will be able to engage your employees and give them a greater sense of purpose. This is especially true when you put in the time for the good cause. People will want to work for a wonderful company that appreciates engagement with their teams and not just about work. This is true in today’s competitive market.
For example, if you want to buy something in the shopping mall, you will somehow prefer to buy from a salesperson who understands your needs and able to connect better with you.
If you want to build a successful career and business, you have to be willing to let go of your egoism and listen to others and make them feel significant. Brendon Burchard has a meaningful quote, he said, “I’ve seen that phenomenally successful people believe they can learn something from everybody. I call them ‘mavericks with mentors’. Richard Branson, for instance, is a total maverick but he surrounds himself with incredibly successful, smart people and he listens to them.”
7. Positive Publicity
When you are egoless and you often put others in the first place, you are creating a positive publicity for yourself. Other people will talk about you about being a great leader and are willing to put others in priority. The word will spread and you will gain positive publicity from the community.
For example, when you sponsor a charitable program and volunteer your time to help out, you are raising the awareness about yourself and the business you carry with you. You are indirectly promoting yourself and your business through the doing the good cause.
You have probably seen a YouTube video that has gone viral and viewed by millions of people simply because someone helped an old lady to cross the busy street. This is just one of the examples of the power of being selfless. No matter it is in business, your career, relationship, or in your daily life, being egoless will always put you in an advantage for a positive publicity.
8. Inspire Positive Thinking
When you experience an egolessness state, you are not thinking and acting from your point of view, you are looking at the situation from a bigger picture and are trying to understand other people. As a result, you will tend to be more positive than when you are clinging to your own thoughts.
Egolessness allows you to be at the moment. You will be able to see clearly what is happening right at the moment and not be affected by any thought or opinion from others. This enables you to think and act more positively than when you are influenced by your own beliefs and thoughts.
Jack Ma, the Chinese billionaire and the founder of Alibaba, said that whenever he faced with problems or difficulties that he did not know how to solve, he would get away from the situation or take a nap. He knows that there is no point to argue his opinion or to resist his thought, so he chooses to get away from the situation and try to quiet down his mind. And every time after he did that, he feels better and is able to look at the situation from a better perspective. Solutions will come automatically when you choose to be egoless and look at things from the third-person point of view.
9. Deeper Connection with Yourself
When you become egoless, you tend to be able to connect with your inner self better. This is because you are not attached to any outside factors or material objects, rather, you are acting and thinking from a deeper sense of mind.
This is also the reason why people who practice meditation are trying to reach the state of egolessness. They wanted to experience inner peace and never caught in their thoughts. According to Kip Mazuy, the meditation expert, when you have no ego, you will be in a state without stress, worry, desire, and fear. You will exist as awareness itself and hence, connect to your deeper self.
Lao Tzu said, “Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.” You have to understand yourself in order to unleash your inner greatness. Someone who understands their deep desire is able to command stronger personal power because what they want will be aligned with their inner values. This is why becoming egoless is important.
10. Becoming Less Attached
In a true egoless action, you are not acting to feed your ego or to receive the flattery of the world. You will not be acting out of your desire or competition or to prove yourself to others. You simply act out of a motivation to do the right thing and to help others. In a nutshell, egolessness cannot involve inflating your ego, it does exactly the opposite.
A lot of people have been conditioned by the media and society to think that they wanted to have more in this world. They want to drive a luxury car, to live in a bigger house, to be a millionaire and to own a business that generates millions of dollars. However, this is not really true. What people truly want are their deepest desires that usually have nothing much to do with shiny objects. What people truly want are the experience and feelings that make them feel worthwhile living their lives.
And being egoless is able to help you in achieving this state. So let go of pursuing the shiny objects that the society and the media have programmed you to, rather, choose to pursue the experience and feeling that will make you a better person.
11. Expand Beyond Limitation
When you act from your selfish motives, you are bind to your own limitations. When an opportunity appears, the first thing you will take into account will be your benefit. You will become benefit-driven and this attitude hinders the intuitive and spontaneous feelings of your heart.
Things will be different when you are egoless. You will never act on your selfish motives, but you will act on selfless desire to help others and expand your sense of self and identity. You will get the most joy from the achievement of your selfless act.
Many people are trying to pursue physical items that they think will make them proud. They want to drive a luxury car because they want to prove to others and to show themselves that they are capable. And once they have accomplished that, they do feel the pride, but only for a short term. After that, they will ask themselves, “Is this all there is?” And feeling empty or start to chase for another bigger shiny object.
This is why a business that solely focusing on making the most profit from their customers will end up failing. A profit-driven business will only pursue making the most money from their clients and not value-driven. When you let go of your ego and be selfless, you will think in your customer’s shoe and create higher and more value for them. This is why being egoless will take away your limitation and allows you to operate from a bigger cause.
12. Leaving a Positive Impact on the World
The selfless act will leave a positive impact on the world. When you operate from an egoless state, you are giving your best to others and not acting for your own benefit. This will affect other people’s lives.
Just like what you have learned from the above when a business focuses on creating more value for their customers, the business can change people’s lives and make the world a better place. When you decide to be selfless and help others regardless of whom they are, you are leaving a positive impact on the world.
In 2010, two of the richest men in this world, Warren Buffett and Bill Gates initiated The Giving Pledge campaign. The aim is to encourage other successful people into giving back to the society. This campaign has nothing to do with the individuals, rather, it was meant to help those who are in need. This is truly a selfless and egoless organization that up to date, the pledge has collected $365 billion.
When people become egoless act from a higher selfless thought, they will do good to others and make a positive impact on the world.